Kate Hudson has three kids: Ryder, 18(!), Bigham, 11 and Rani, who is four. Kate gets a lot of flak because her kids each have a different father. Because how dare a woman have a child with her partner if she’s already had one with a previous partner. Kate, fortunately, shuts those noises out. She told The Sunday Times that her family dynamic is working just fine, thankyouverymuch. She and her kids’ dads – Chris Robinson, Matt Bellamy and Danny Fujikama – work very hard to form a solid family unit.
Kate Hudson is opening up about her co-parenting relationships with the fathers of her three kids.
If you didn’t know, the 43-year-old Glass Onion actress shares son Ryder, 18, with ex-husband Chris Robinson, son Bingham, 11, with ex-fiance Matt Bellamy, and daughter Rani, 4, with fiance Danny Fujikama.
In a new interview, Kate revealed what it’s really like to co-parent with her kids’ dads.
“It might not look traditional from the outside, but on the inside I feel like we’re killing it,” Kate told The Sunday Times. “The unit that I’ve created with three children with three different fathers is a seriously strong unit, and it’s ours.”
Kate continued, “I’m not interested in forcing some conventional idea of love or marriage. I’d like to be able to grow intimately with my partner for a long time, but I also don’t have rose-colored glasses on. My goal in life is that I want to feel love and I want to give love, but I’m also practical, so, one day at a time. I work really hard at relationships because I like them.”
This is why the term “traditional marriage” should start disappearing from our lexicon. People like Candace Cameron Bure and the purity police who go after women like Kate enforce the notion that those living outside a one man/one woman, legalized in court marriage have fallen short of some goal. But I think we all know someone who’s hit that mark and is miserable. The objective should be what Kate is describing, a functioning unit that incorporates all the members of the family in a loving and thriving way. Kate is also right that a family should reflect the people in it, not try to contort itself into society’s antiquated definition. Honestly, bravo to her for managing three households’ schedules. That’s a yeoman’s work.
“I’d like to be able to grow intimately with my partner for a long time, but I also don’t have rose-colored glasses on.” Many of us make commitments wanting/believing that we will be with that person forever. But we know the statistics. I remember when Kate got engaged to Chris. She was practically blinded by love. She couldn’t take her engagement ring off long enough to have it sized. There’s no doubt in my mind she thought that would be forever. But it wasn’t and they moved on. I’m glad Kate is standing up for the work she’s doing to make all these relationships work as they are now and not apologizing for not reflecting the cookie cutter image narrower minds think she should fit.
P.S. – I haven’t seen Glass Onion yet but I really want to. Probably this weekend.
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